One thing that I want to promote here is that it is healthy to communicate about our sexual desires. The vast majority of us are so shrouded in shame that we can’t talk openly about what we want sexually, even with a partner with whom we’ve been with for years. Especially with someone that we’ve been with for years. It may actually be easier to be open and honest in regard to what you want sexually with a one night stand than with a committed loving partner.
We fear that if we reveal our darkest desires that our loved one will shame us, so we stuff that desire down and out of sight and as a result never get what we really want sexually. This results in secretive habits such as excessive watching of porn or phone sex lines that also must be hidden from our partner. Almost ALL of us (if we really explore our desires) have some truly dark, and what polite society would call not politically correct (to say the least) desires.
I think that those who would either say that they don’t have any non vanilla desires either haven’t really thought much about it or are so repressed sexually by their upbringing that they just can’t be honest with themselves.
Let’s level up folks, we are all a little bit freaky. Let your freak flag fly.